A solid problem that was pointed out to me recently was that I do not take control of my life. This post is about the ways which my passive ways of going about life has caused more problems than avoiding them. Avoiding problems is my default action when dealing with problems.
The Relationship
My partner is a planner and I am not. I feel like I have a good sense of what needs to be planned. I would like overall big things to be planned like work meetings, moving to another country, getting married, or having children. My partner likes to plan each week for cool things we are doing. When we don't have cool things going on, hanging-out plans with friends are created to fill the time. We have only about two days a week to ourselves. I need more. I also need more spontaneous time. But how does one be spontaneous with a planner? Planning spontaneous time seems sketchy. I digress. My passive action in the relationship has created a relationship that I do not like. I am not happy in this relationship where I have no time to myself to allow the spontaneous energy to cultivate. I have created this myseld, though. By remaining passive and by having no feedback on it, my partner goes on to create a life he wants uninterrupted. Had he had feedback, I am quite sure that he would have changed something. He may have not changed it completely or fully to my expectations but at least a compromise would have been created.
Work
Working passively is a mistake for anyone. I have been quite successful in my line of career. I have created excellent and trusthworthy references. I feel, though, I have not worked as I should have. I know that I have much more inside of me to give. This passiveness is dangerous because I am not fulfilling myself at work. I go home each day thinking that I could have done better or that I could have had a better influence on the direction of my work.
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